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It’s the gift that keeps on giving
I know the most important things about birthdays are not the gifts. Well, depending on the person you ask because if it were me, I’d most likely say cake. But that’s not the point. This time.
But finding the perfect gift, or at least one that would make the receiver happy to have spent the time and effort unwrapping the thing, is important to me. Usually I just take hints from people. If I notice they hover over something every time we’re shopping or if they mention liking something or wanting something, then I’ll make a mental note to look into getting that as a gift. This method has done me well in most aspects.
However as of late, I’ve unexpectedly and unfortunately completely bombed the last two birthday gifts for the bf. I had hoped last year’s fiasco was just a fluke but unfortunately it was not.
I misread things again this year and I was seriously bummed. Like, devastated. Okay, so maybe not devastated but if I were alone I totally would have cried. Why such the emphasis on a gift? Because I spent a lot of time thinking about what it is I’m going to gift for a person and failing to get something he’d appreciate and like made me feel like I didn’t know my own boyfriend. And seriously, what kind of messed up thinking is that?
Granted, it’s not like I ruined his birthday or anything but dude, way to suck at picking presents. I’m trying to stave off the complex I’m beginning to develop because I don’t want to be the gift giver you really don’t want to get a gift from. We all know that person; the one you just want to tell to save the time and money and forget about it.
Plus, you always hear about the girl who complains about having to tell her boyfriend/husband what it is he should get her for whatever gift giving holiday is coming up and how she wishes he could just put some thought into it and come up with it himself. I don’t want to be that guy! Er, that girl. And I really don’t want to just give him money. That seems like such a cop out.
To me, a gift is a reflection of how well you know the person. I know he likes computer and techy stuff but it’s much better if he takes care of those purchases. Maybe I could have gotten him some apps for his Touch, but I wouldn’t even know where to begin plus that kind of falls inline with the techy stuff, or gift cards to somewhere so he can eat while he’s working [but where? Borders may be closing and Panera is a no go]. He always says he has enough clothes and I already bought him a jacket once before. Maybe I should have just made him something. Or a book? Sigh.
I really shouldn’t put so much pressure on myself to come up with the right gift and I know he wouldn’t want me to do so either but I just can’t help myself. He deserves to have something that’ll make him smile and all giddy. Okay, maybe giddy is stretching it a bit but happy.
Well, better luck next year.
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